Mother-to-Mother Unity Mission to Israel

Ashley Inbar • April 26, 2024

The first step toward hope, is taking action.

Dear JCA Community,


A group of six Jewish mothers from Maine, a Momentum Partnership Manager, a Brandeis professor, and the J’s Executive Director walk into a home during Pesach may sound like the start of a great joke, but it was actually the scene in Falmouth on Wednesday night. The moms and I are two weeks away from departing on a Mother-to-Mother Unity Mission to Israel. Gila, our Momentum Manager, and Sara from Brandeis traveled from Massachusetts to ensure we are emotionally and physically prepared for the journey we are about to embark on together, as well as to share their own experiences as Israelis living in the diaspora who were personally affected by October 7th.


We are scheduled to arrive just in time to commemorate Yom Hazikaron (Memorial Day) and to mark Yom Ha’atzmaut (Independence Day).  We know it will be incredibly powerful to be there for these events, to honor and cement our shared connection to the land of Israel, our peoplehood, our values and our commitments. Above all this trip will be an opportunity to express our shared belief that as mothers in the diaspora, we are called to stand in unity and in support of Israeli mothers. In a time when so many are turning away or staying quiet, it is ultimately our shared desire to turn toward these injustices, to act in the service of humanity, and the desire to do something, anything, to stand against anti-Zionism, anti-Semitism and terror, and to bear witness to the atrocities committed by Hamas on October 7th.


We all have additional, more personal “why’s” as well. Gila shared her own story of waking up in Israel on October 7th to the sound of sirens, and how she rushed to her 23-year-old daughter’s side immediately. Gila recalled her insistence that no matter the risk to herself personally, she was committed to personally delivering her daughter to her military base, praying it wouldn’t be their last moments together. Thankfully, she just celebrated her 24th birthday, with our group over Zoom (see photo below!) Sara talked about her immediate family member, Mia Shem, an Israeli hostage who was released on November 30th. One Maine participant discussed her experience of living as a teacher in Jerusalem, and that two of her former students were directly affected on October 7th, one was killed in the Nova massacre, and the other two days later as part of the first IDF unit to enter Gaza. The rest of us talked about our own connections to Israel, to the Holocaust, and about our fears right here in our own country. We echo one another’s sentiments that we no longer feel safe or free to express our religion or commitments to Israel publicly. All of us do so loudly and proudly anyway. The topic that aligns us in the most resounding way, though, is our children. Our number one priority as parents is to ensure their safety. What must it be like to be an Israeli mother right now?


We all agree: “If I am not for myself, who is for me? If I am only for myself, what am I? If not now, when?” – Rabbi Hillel, 1st Century B.C.


What will this mission look like? To start, we will be meeting with families of hostages, bearing witness by visiting a kibbutz destroyed by Hamas, as well as the Nova Music Festival site, where we will hear from a survivor. Later, we will harvest fruits and vegetables on a farm, ensuring fresh food reaches the markets. We will donate our time, learn, listen, offer support and solidarity.


As the Community Leader for this mission, I feel a personal responsibility to not only share what we hope our time volunteering in Israel does mean for us, and hopefully for those we interact with on the ground, but I also want you to know what this mission does not mean. Our connection to and support for Israel does not negate the clear suffering and massive loss of innocent lives of Gazans. Our choice to engage in this mission does not mean we are against a Palestinian statehood. On the contrary, every single one of us prays for a peaceful future and two-state solution. We’ve seen (in alarming detail) what happens when there is no viable path forward for Israeli and Palestinian statehood existing peacefully side by side. We’ve been told it’s impossible. But look where that belief has led us. Unnecessary death, destruction, and trauma that will be felt for generations to come by millions of people in the region and worldwide. This is exactly the right moment to adopt a new way of thinking—to practice our ability to hold multiple truths at one time. To have tikvah—hope. And the first step toward hope, is taking action.


We hope you follow along at the J’s Facebook and Instagram for daily updates; and for a more comprehensive update when we return. Tonight is Shabbat Chol Hamoed Pesach. From my family to yours, I hope you marked this holiday with more curiosity than criticism, and I leave you with these words from Elie Wiesel: “I love Passover because for me it is a cry against indifference, a cry for compassion.”


Am Yisrael Chai.


Ashley Inbar

Chief Development Officer



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